My friends and I are all at different stages in our personal lives, a couple of us are married, some are dating, some exclusively dating, while others are divorced, and a couple are single. But every time we get together to catch up, we spend most of our time talking about men. What they aren’t doing that we want them to, what they’re doing too much of, what they’re doing bad, and of course what they’re doing amazingly well! I decided to come here and list a few things that are continuously brought up just to give you a little insight on what we want our men to know but may not be saying to you directly.
Number one, Spontaneity is a MUST
This is for the people who have been together for a while (9 months, 3 years, what ever feels like a while to you). So, you’ve been together a while and you’ve developed a routine, and you know your woman pretty well (Kudos to you by the way for taking the time to learn what she likes!), but Monday through Sunday you’re doing the same thing every week. STOP, and make new plans this week now! Do not let autopilot consume you! It’s easy to go with the flow of things and not want to shake things up because you’re comfortable, but eventually that gets boring. Men like to keep things “interesting” in bed right? Well women like to keep things interesting in life. If you don’t switch it up every once in a while you start to either become a zombie or you’ll be dating a zombie. Trust me, I know!
Number Two, Follow Through
Women have expectations and will hold you accountable for things you may not even know you did wrong. No not because we think you’re mind readers but because you told us you would do something that excited us enough to focus on what you were saying. So, when you’re flipping through the channels and you make a comment about going on a vacation to Hawaii, we tuned in and made a mental note. And even if she doesn’t bring it up again, she may not even let you know she was listening, but she has filed it away and will use it against you at a later time. The key thing to take away from this is if say you’re going to do something … DO IT! And guys if you feel pressured to respond to a question (because sometimes we want an answer and we want an answer now), a woman will be okay with you saying “Let me get back to you, I don’t want to tell you I’m going to do something if I’m not going to be able to later.” But yet again, if you’re going to use that you must remember to follow up with her!
Number Three, Be Yourself
I don’t know how many times I’ve seen people pretend to like something they really could care less about. Now if you’re not in a relationship that you’re interested in keeping you can skip over this one. But if you are with someone you want to keep around, the worst thing you can do is fake an interest in something she likes just to get her attention. Think about it, after some time (it could be a month or a year), it will become obvious that you lied, and then what? Only in the movies is the woman flattered by the fact that you did all that lying and faking to get her attention. In real life, we think you’re kind of creepy. And if you’re reading this and you’re single this applies to you too. The best way to attract someone is to be the best you possible. There’s nothing more sexy to a woman then a confident man.
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